It’s beginning to look a lot like…the time of the year where I remember just how difficult being indecisive can be. The holidays tend to be extra challenging when it comes to being faced with making decisions. The situations where you need to do so lurk behind every corner, waiting to strike and catch you off guard. It’s no wonder people get stressed out around this time of year. We’re all susceptible to holiday woes, but I’m going to focus on the ones faced by indecisive people like me.
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The holiday woes start earlier and earlier each year as Black Friday extends its influence to the days and weeks leading up to Thanksgiving. You see, the earlier the deals start the earlier people start asking you what you want for Christmas. Even though I know it’s coming every year, I still manage to be completely unprepared for it. Items I could use occur to me throughout the year, but do you think I have enough foresight to write them down as they occur? Of course I don’t.
Once the question is asked, there’s no coming back. My mind goes completely blank and I have to scramble to provide the person with a timely response. I have to let people know what I want before all the big sales are over because that’s when they want to get their shopping done. I end up panicking and asking for the same things I always do instead of things I really need. Then, once Christmas has come and passed, I suddenly start noticing all the things I should’ve asked for.
More importantly than what I want, though, is deciding out what I’m going to get for everyone else. This means I also have to decide who I’m a giving gift to and how much money I can spend on each person. Once again, there is a time limit. Since I like to do all of my shopping online, I have an even earlier deadline because nobody wants to be that person who has to explain that a gift hasn’t arrived in the mail yet. I’ve tried getting all my Christmas shopping done while the deals are still going on, but I usually end up missing them. I don’t want to purchase a gift only to see a better one later.
Christmas Shopping Woes
My lack of planning eventually leads me to one of the places I dread most – physical stores. Stores are a place where you have to make way more decisions than you realize. Where do I start? What do I need? What’s a good price? Is quality or price more important? This list goes on and on, always leading to me staring at a shelf for several minutes trying to remember what brought me to this particular shelf in the first place.
Usually when I feel overwhelmed with in-store decisions, I can leave and put it off to be dealt with another day. During the holidays, however, I have to get it done within a certain timeline. Again, I don’t do well with rushed decisions. I look for items as they occur to me, so I end up bouncing around from section to section. If you mapped my route, it would look like the path of a puppy exploring a new yard. Plus, once I think I’ve made a decision regarding a gift, I come across something else that would make a great gift and have to re-evaluate the decisions I’ve already made. The whole experience is dizzying.
People who know me also know how bad I am at making plans. I find that if I put off the decision long enough, something usually ends up happening anyway or someone else decides for me. I can get away with this any time of the year except on holidays. You can’t put off making plans because you don’t want to end up being the person that makes it difficult for everyone else to make plans. You have to figure out what you’re doing well in advance so others can do the same.
This is very difficult for me. I toss ideas around in my head for a long time and I go back and forth on the tentative plans I have made. I don’t usually make decisions until time is completely up and people are looking for answers. During the holidays, though, I decide what I’m doing, then spend all the time leading up to the decision’s fruition reminding myself I have to stick with the decision I already made.
The Holiday Woes Shall Pass
The holiday season may be the most wonderful time of the year, but this doesn’t mean we don’t all have a few holiday woes. The time certainly isfilled with decisions that need to be made, but the outcomes usually make it all worthwhile. Whatever your concerns may be, try to take some time for yourself during this hectic season. Take some deep breaths and remember, the holidays are about spending time with people you care about and making memories; everything else is just filler.